Ethics and Etiquette

Ethics and Etiquette

Yes, there is a wrong way to do things


While it is true that morality can be subjective (what's good to the lion is horrific for the gazelle), there are still standards within our community. We have a duty of care towards one another and we are not entitled to anything without negotiation and consent. (See those sections for more writings on the topic).

The following are writings that fall under that general description (though they may also be listed elsewhere.)


  • Medicalization of Love (Episode 19)
    Can we “cure” love? The Medicalization of Love. Is it possible? Should it be done? The dual nature of love In Episode 18, Carrie Jenkins and I discussed the nature of love. It has a dual nature; part biology and part social construct. […]
  • Retroactively withdrawing consent
    The morning after; A bitter pill, the bitter truth The idea of retroactively withdrawing consent arose during an episode of The Third Rail on which I was the guest. The episode aired on May 1, 2016. We were talking about unconscious sex (which is a […]
  • Home Safe! Safety Calls – of a different sort
    “Home Safe” Calls – a standard of care I frequently attend events by myself. If I am not actually solo at the event, there comes a time when I will be travelling solo back to my home. Most of my social engagements are an hour+ from […]
  • FetLife; Your Golden Ticket to the Wonky World of BDSM
    Congratulations! You found the golden ticket! FetLife is the largest social networking site for kinky people. For new people, just discovering the wonderful world of BDSM, finding FetLife could feel like finding the golden ticket in a Wonka Bar. […]
  • Point, click, Voila! “Dick Pic!”
    The unsolicited “Dick Pic!” and what they mean to THIS woman Since the emergence of the selfie phenomenon, people have been snatching pictures of their most intimate parts and releasing them into the cybersphere. I say people and I mean […]
  • Etiquette: The Bank of Life
    Etiquette: The Bank of Life This is an excerpt from Emily Post’s Etiquette, published in 1922. Please note that this book is available on Project Gutenberg, and is in the public domain. This passage can be summed up by the adage “you get […]
  • Nybbles & Bytes – The Coupling of Technology and Sex – Digisexuality
    Nybbles & Bytes The Coupling of Technology and Sex   What is Digisexuality? I recently spoke with Dr Neil McArthur, a philosophy and ethics Professor at the University of Manitoba. We talked about the fascinating emerging area of sexuality […]
  • Digisexuality: the intersection between Tech and Sexuality (Episode 15)
    Technology. It has become a staple in our lives with ever increasing frequency. Each day brings new innovations, so is it any wonder that it has worked its way into how we sex?  Enter the field of research called digisexuality. Actually, advanced […]
  • The 4Cs of BDSM (Episode 13)
    From “SSC” and “RACK” to the “4Cs”: Introducing a new Framework for Negotiating BDSM Participation. The existing models don’t quite do it. Within the BDSM community, we use phrases like “safe, sane and […]
  • Privacy Warning “Dear Sydney University” (Episode 10)
    If you have spent more than an hour, hell a few minutes, on an adult forum, such as FetLife, Adult Friend Finder, or even Fabswingers, you have seen the privacy warning. One variation reads as follows: The Privacy Warning WARNING: To Sydney […]
  • The problem with stereotypes, or “I believe” (Episode 1)
    Stereotypes, Prejudice and Discrimination.  I address them all in the inaugural episode of Stereo-Typed “I believe …” Stereotypes are prevalent in our culture. They lead to prejudice as well as discrimination. In my inaugural […]
  • NSFW? The Stereo-Typed “safe for work” solution
    Safe for work! will be a safe place to view information about the show. This site is a “safe for work” space.  One of the goals of the show is to capture the biased thoughts about BDSM within our community, as well as […]

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Host of Stereo-Typed on TPOK Radio, an educational, research-based internet radio show/podcast that seeks to challenge beliefs about and within the Alternative Sexuality cultures.
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