Community and Caring

Belonging and taking care of those you care about

community caring

We call it a community. We are a collection of beings seeking to belong. How we interact and care for one another is what matters.

The following are writings that fall under that general description (though they may also be listed elsewhere.)


  • Let’s Talk About S.E.C.S., Baby! (Ep. 39)
    Let’s Talk About S.E.C.S., Baby! I think that we can all agree that sex education in many countries, including the USA and Canada, is woefully lacking. Most high school curricula either focus on abstinence practices or are restricted to the […]
  • Touch – The non-sexual kind
    Hold me close Touch. It is a human need and one that many people are craving. We live in the digital age. For many people, an average day involves going to work, then returning home. The bulk of their interactions with friends and family is on-line. […]
  • Hate: Break the silence
    How A Whisper Can Drown A Scream Hate … It is an ugly blot on our society. Hate isn’t new, by any means, but we seem to be more aware of it these days. Every day, we see headlines of crimes that are motivated by hatred. Friends and […]
  • Anthropomorphic Research (Episode 23)
    Anthropomorphic Research = Fur Science! What is a Furry? That is what we aim to learn … and I found the perfect person to dismantle the stereotypes and give us data. Yes, real data. He studies furries and fandoms and is a furry himself. […]
  • Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse and Assault (Episode 20)
    It is a crime, regardless of gender Sexual abuse/assault is a horrible crime. Victims often feel powerless and ashamed. We talk a lot about female survivors, but what about male survivors of sexual abuse? Surely they have a voice in this […]
  • Home Safe! Safety Calls – of a different sort
    “Home Safe” Calls – a standard of care I frequently attend events by myself. If I am not actually solo at the event, there comes a time when I will be travelling solo back to my home. Most of my social engagements are an hour+ from […]
  • A journey of a thousand miles …
    A Single Step 千里之行,始於足下 A journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step ~Laozi Another collection of scattered thoughts coughed up like a furball We call this thing a journey for a reason Growth, self-discovery, the discovery of those around […]
  • What has FetLife ever done for us?
    Apart from: allowing us to friend, follow, and interact privately with other kinky people, allowing us to create and post events so we can find fun things to do, adding a group component so we can have discussions with multiple people at once, […]
  • The 4Cs of BDSM (Episode 13)
    From “SSC” and “RACK” to the “4Cs”: Introducing a new Framework for Negotiating BDSM Participation. The existing models don’t quite do it. Within the BDSM community, we use phrases like “safe, sane and […]
  • Mr Cocky mug give-away contest (Episode 11)
    Listen to Episode 11 for your chance to win a pair of Mr Cocky mugs!! Here’re all the deets for the contest: As noted in the episode promo, there is a special incentive to listen in to the show. A pair of Mr_Cocky mugs will go to one lucky […]
  • Give til it hurts (Episode 11)
    Kinksters for Critters Give all you can, then give some more It sounds like the motto of a masochistic, service-oriented, submissive, doesn’t it? And, it could very well be, but it isn’t what we’ll be talking about on Episode 11 of […]
  • How to Help When Your BDSM Community Has an Abuse Crisis
    Due to recent events within the Ontario community, I enlisted the help of Dr Laura Coleman. I want to provide resources for dealing with allegations of abuse against people we hold in high esteem. The circumstances of this case involve children, but […]
  • When People We Know Stand Accused (Episode 5)
    They stand accused … This episode has nothing to do with BDSM. Recent events involving people in the Toronto, Ontario and Edmonton, Alberta scenes inspired this episode, but there is nothing kinky about the allegations. These people stand […]
  • Grab Bag – Events (Episode 3)
    An eventful episode full of events Events.  They are a major occurrence in our subculture.  Camping, play parties, munches.  We can’t seem to get enough of them. In this episode, AuntieSocial is going to reach down between your legs and give a […]
  • Narcissism, The Current N-Word (Episode 2)
    Narcissism: The current N-Word It probably isn’t the one you are thinking. There is a new n-word that has risen through the ranks to be the ultimate slur … narcissist. But, is being narcissistic really the evil that it is portrayed to be? Are […]

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1. Waterloo, Ontario, Canada
2. FurScience Universal Recruitment Project
3. As Dr Michael Aaron explained in Episode 8, philia simply means “love”
4. at my ex’s
5. For those that don’t know my local geography, this cat & mouse game lasted for about 20 minutes
6. to determine that he was indeed following me
7. Approximately 45 minutes to my home and another 15 minutes to the Police Station with a lot of back-tracking involved through my neighbourhood, so I know it wasn’t a coincidence.
8. especially those who saw me out & about
9. I have a Bluetooth connection in my vehicle — please use hands-free methods to make the call!
10. Some options: A gas station, the airport, a busy highway rest stop, bar or restaurant.
11. those I frequently play and/or stay with