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Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse and Assault (Episode 20)

2017-04-02 by Camille Beaujolie 1 Comment

It is a crime, regardless of gender

male survivors of sexual abuseSexual abuse/assault is a horrible crime. Victims often feel powerless and ashamed. We talk a lot about female survivors, but what about male survivors of sexual abuse? Surely they have a voice in this conversation as well.

One is too many

What is a good number? How many victims are needed for the issue of male survivors of sexual assault to gain the attention and services needed to help them heal? One victim is one too many, regardless of the gender identity of the victim or the perpetrator.

Silenced

If you have spent any time on social media, as I have, you may have noticed that when the topic of sexual assault comes up, we focus primarily on one scenario: females as victims and males as perpetrators. It has been my observation that when the tables are turned, there is a tendency to shut down the conversation. What message is this sending to male survivors? If I may inject my interpretation, it says that their experience doesn’t matter because the numbers aren’t significant in comparison with the number of females that are victimized by males.

But what are the numbers?

I don’t think we can answer that question. Unfortunately, we do not have the data. The following, from a Canadian Department of Justice study entitled Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse and Assault: Their Experiences (McDonald and Tijerino, 2013), the challenges for male survivors are partly rooted in a lack of research, coupled with the way society views masculinity (emphasis mine):

One of the challenges with Canadian data is that where numbers of victims are low, statistics cannot be further disaggregated to better understand the nature of the incidents. One study from the US (Weiss 2010) documents the similarities and differences between male and female sexual assault from the self-report National Crime Victimization Survey (NCVS). By using the NCVS, Weiss (2010) is able to speak about sexual assault in the general male population and she deconstructs what it means to be masculine today in the US. The idea of masculinity includes physical strength, being in control, always wanting and being ready for sex, and being the perpetrator of such assaults, never the victim. Shame appears to play a big role in the decision to report, for both males and females. The negative impact of sexual abuse and assault, regardless of gender, has been well-documented (see Hill 2009 for a summary); Tewksbury (2007) provides a thorough overview of the physical, mental and sexual consequences of male sexual assault.

Tewksbury (2007, 25) begins his overview with a summary of the reasons men for not report assaults, nor seek services. These include: stigma, shame, fear, and having their sexuality questioned. While men may try to find services, they will quickly find that sexual assault/rape crisis centres may only provide services to women or that although they can access services, there are none specifically designed for men. Several years ago, Fuller and Smith (2008) undertook a scan of support services in Canada available to male survivors. At that time, there were only three organizations in the country dedicated to providing services to male survivors.

April is Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse Awareness Month

On April 5th, Don Wright, the founder and Executive Director of the BCSMSSA, the first of its kind in Canada, will be joining me to discuss male survivors. We will address some of the myths associated with male victims, some of the challenges they face with the are abused, as well as what services are available for survivors. (Spoiler alert: there aren’t enough services.)

April is Male Survivor of Sexual Abuse Awareness Month. Join Don and I as we raise awareness. This is a conversation that deserves our attention.

Relevant Links:

  • http://bc-malesurvivors.com/
  • https://1in6.org/
  • http://equalitycanada.com/

Relevant Reading:

  • Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse and Assault: Their Experiences
  • Sexually violent women: The PID-5, everyday sadism, and adversarial sexual
    attitudes predict female aggression and coercion against male victims

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Click on the images to see a brief bio and contact information for Don Wright and Camille Beaujolie.

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Don Wright, MEd is the founder and Executive Director of the Victoria Male Survivors of Sexual Assault Society and the Vancouver Society for Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse, which were consolidated in 1997 to form the British Columbia Society for Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse.

As well as fulfilling his duties as Executive Director, Don travels throughout western Canada providing training to professionals in the sexual abuse field, and consultation to government—both Provincial and Federal—on various projects related to victims of crime and criminal justice. Mr Wright served on the Board of Directors of the National Organization on Male Sexual Victimization for six years.

In November 2001, the B.C. Human Rights Coalition awarded Mr Wright with a human rights medal of honour for his pioneering work in this field.

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Camille, or AuntieSocial, is the host of Stereo-Typed. She has been active in the local BDSM community since 2010. A more extensive profile is available on this website by clicking on the “AuntieSocial” tab in the top menu.

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There is a lot of misunderstanding surrounding what we do, and who we are. Sometimes, these misconceptions give us a chuckle at our local dungeon, but sometimes, the broad-stroke generalisations may cause confusion or even alienation.

Our communities have a history. We have traditions. We have our own lexicon. Words have a meaning and sometimes, our words have special meaning within our culture. Not all kinksters are alike, and some of us may do things that others just don’t understand.

  • Everyone who hears words like “Bondage”, “Discipline”, “Sadomasochism”, and other terms we use to describe what we do and who we are, approaches them with their own ideas of what those words mean (preconceptions).
  • If you think back to when you were new, you may have had an idea of BDSM that came from fantasy or popular cultural references. You may have discovered that these ideas, or how others (even within the community) view your predilections aren’t an accurate representation of your experience. (misconceptions)
  • If you have spent any time reading the stories and journal entries or looking at the pictures on FetLife, you may have picked up on some sweeping generalisations of how certain roles are supposed to behave (generalisations).
  • You have probably heard about the correct way or the old way. You will see laments about “the scene these days“. While some of that may be true, does it automatically follow that their experience is the only way? (one-true-wayisms)
  • You have probably noticed that some words are interchangeable … but, are they really? (conflated language).

And, what about those vanillas? What do they think of us, of what we do? Are they really as prudish and judgemental as they are portrayed in the annals of FetLife? These questions are also generalisations, in themselves, because we can’t take a broad-stroke approach to any group of people without the creation, or perpetuation, of a stereotype.

Join me, AuntieSocial, and my occasional guests, as we try to unravel some of the myths in our lifestyle. Think of this as the Kinky Myth Busters … except I don’t get to blow shit up.

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What began in 2012 as an interview podcast, documenting the personal journeys of kinky people, has grown into a network of podcasts and radio shows. With the goal of someday providing a 24/7 stream of kink-related content, TPOK Radio provides hours of entertaining and educational shows for your listening pleasure.

Each of the shows is archived on Spreaker, as well as various podcast repositories (including iTunes).

The current line-up consists of:

  • TPOK Live (Sundays at 7 pm eastern)
  • The 3rd Rail (Sundays at 8 pm eastern)
  • Brooklyn’s Journey (podcast) Recorded episodes every other Monday
  • The Rainbow Connection (currently on hiatus)
  • Kink Geek (podcast with one live show a month on Tuesdays at 8 pm)
  • Stereo-Typed (Every other Wednesday at 7 pm)

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