Threesomes, Bromances and the Decline of the One-Time Rule of Homosexuality
What is a threesome, you ask? Well, you probably aren’t asking as I am sure you likely already know the answer. Some of you have already engaged in one and many of you probably fantasize about them, but for clarity, I’ll give a definition anyways.
A threesome is a sexual encounter between three people … yes, they all need to be people! There are various types of threesomes and that number is growing with more and more gender identities coming on board, but we can generally look at there being 4 major types. MMF, or Male-male-female, FFM, or female-female-male, all male and all female. This is a very simplistic representation of the categories. The mixed sex categories could also be further classified as those where the same-sex participants interact sexually with one another, and those where they do not.
I want to keep this as simple as possible because sex and sexuality are rarely simple. A penis-bearing person isn’t necessarily a man and likewise, as will be discussed much more in the interview, engaging in a threesome with the third person being of the same-sex as oneself doesn’t indicate anything with respect to your sexual orientation. For a similar reason, I used the clumsy classifications of all male and all female because making the assumption that the participants are homosexual contributes to bi-erasure. For that matter, the third may be heterosexual with an openness to homosocial interactions. If there is one thing that can be said about threesomes and those who participate, it is that no assumptions can be made about them as individuals, other than they decided to engage in a sexual encounter with two other people.
Threesomes are a very common fantasy. In fact, although I have engaged in MMF as well as FFM threesomes, I still have some strong celebrity threesome fantasies, generally, my fantasies to tend toward the MMF variety. My favourite is my Captain Jack fantasy featuring Captain Jack Harkness and Captain Jack Sparrow. In many of my imaginings, they are full participants and enjoy one another as well as me.
Based on PornHub’s year in review, threesomes continue to be a highly searched and watched porn classification. Yes, Porn is not a good indicator of real life, but one thing that the search data from a site like PornHub can give insight into how popular something is from a viewer perspective … which translates into how interested the porn viewing population is in a specific form of sexual encounter. Threesome continually hit the top 10 overall searches. Of additional interest is that women are much more likely to search for threesome than men, yet a paper published in the April 2017 issue of the Journal Archives of Sexual Behaviour entitled Heterosexual Young Adults’ Interest, Attitudes and Experiences Related to Mixed-Gender, Multi-Person Sex, it was found that only 13% of their 274 participants had reported experience and 64% indicated interest in having a mixed-gender threesome. (the breakdown by gender was 24% males had participated while only 8% of females reported having participated in a threesome).
A 2013 article in the National Post cites the results of a survey conducted by Playtex and the Environics Research Group with found that 22% of sexually active Canadian adults have engaged in threesomes and another 29% said they were open to the idea.
Tonight, we will be listening to my recent conversation with Dr Ryan Scoats about his recently published paper entitled ‘I don’t mind watching him cum’: Heterosexual men, threesomes, and the erosion of the one-time rule of homosexuality.
About Ryan Scoats
Dr Scoats obtained his BA and Masters from the University of Bath and his PhD from the University of Winchester, studying under Professor Eric Anderson. He has been a lecturer in Sports Sociology at Wolverhampton and Winchester Universities and is currently a researcher at Birmingham City University in the faculty of Health, Education and Life Sciences. His work focuses on the meanings people attach to threesomes and their interpretations of their experiences. And yes, he researched threesomes for his PhD.
Some of Dr Scoats’ Press Coverage:
- The man with a PhD in THREESOMES: British sociologist reveals how straight men are increasingly having a ménage à trois with other males as a way to strengthen their bromances – The Daily Mail 18 October 2017
- This Guy Got an Actual PhD in Threesomes. Here Are 5 Things He Learned – Mens Health 18 October 2017
- Guy gets a Ph.D. in threesomes — and his findings are titillating – NY Post 17 October 2017
- Study: Bromances facilitate threesomes between men – NY Daily News 31 October 2017
- We talked to a doctor of threesomes about how to have the perfect threesome – Metro.co.uk 19 October 2017
Dr Ryan Scoats links
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